Research by Betteroo

The State of Parent & Baby Sleep October 2026

One of the largest parent-sleep surveys ever run, showing what sleep really looks like when you’re in the thick of it.

Based on 83,901 parents who came to us for sleep help
118 countries represented

Key Findings
80%
getting <6 hours of sleep
82%
feel exhausted or drained
65%
of babies wake 3+ times at 4–9 months
10%
of babies fall asleep independently

4 in 5 parents in our survey are running on less than six hours of sleep a night.
For most of the families who came to us, it’s the baseline, not a phase.

The Waking Plateau Nobody Warns You About

Everyone talks about the 4-month regression. But in our data, night waking doesn’t spike and pass: it stays high right through 4–9 months, when about two-thirds of babies wake 3 or more times a night, and it barely moves across that window. It only starts to ease after 10 months.

  • 0–3 months: 48% wake 3+ times per night (n=8,560)
  • 4–6 months: 64% wake 3+ times per night (n=10,759)
  • 7–9 months: 66% wake 3+ times per night (n=7,850)
  • 10–12 months: 59% wake 3+ times per night (n=4,426)
  • 13–18 months: 52% wake 3+ times per night (n=3,541)
  • 19–24 months: 39% wake 3+ times per night (n=1,404)
  • 2–6 years: 30% wake 3+ times per night (n=1,428)
Baby age → % waking 3+ times per night

n = parents of a baby that age: 8,560 · 10,759 · 7,850 · 4,426 · 3,541 · 1,404 · 1,428

How Are Babies Actually Falling Asleep?

Methods parents use to settle their baby

Feeding65%
Rocking62%
Sitting nearby43%
Singing34%
It depends19%
Falls asleep alone10%

Only about 1 in 10 babies in our survey fall asleep on their own. Among the families who came to us, independent sleep is the exception, and for many of them, that’s why they’re here.

Which came first

The Co-Sleeping Pattern

Co-sleeping and more waking travel together in our data, but, as parents told us, usually because the waking came first.

61%
of co-sleepers’ babies wake 3+ times
vs 51% for non-co-sleepers (+10 pp)
7%
settle in under 10 minutes
vs 10% for non-co-sleepers, no faster to settle
80%
feel exhausted or drained
vs 82% for non-co-sleepers, no measurable difference
69%
of 7–9-month-olds fed back to sleep wake 3+ times
vs 53% for same-age babies resettled other ways
60%
of contact-nappers’ babies nap under 60 min
vs 56% for others

The group in each cardThe comparison group

For many families, co-sleeping is less a strategy than survival. In the data, co-sleepers’ babies wake more and settle no faster, but that’s largely about who ends up co-sleeping, not proof of what it causes. The honest read: in our data, co-sleeping families don’t report the extra rest parents hope for, and co-sleeping isn’t the villain either. The 3am response shows a similar pattern: among 7–9-month-olds, babies fed back to sleep wake 3+ times at 69% vs 53% for babies resettled other ways (n=6,440 vs 1,410), an association that likely runs in both directions: babies who wake more get fed more, and fed babies may come to expect it. Based on 7,896 parents who mentioned co-sleeping vs 32,938 who didn’t.

Bedtime, and the Morning That Follows

Reported bedtimes across the full sample

1%
12%
39%
24%
17%
7%
Before 6 PM
6:00–6:59 PM
7:00–7:59 PM
8:00–8:59 PM
After 9 PM
Varies

Nearly 40% of babies aren’t asleep until after 8pm. Among newborns (0–3 months), 30% still have bedtimes after 9pm, a reminder that consolidated infant schedules don’t usually arrive until later in the first year.

Morning Wake-Ups Track Bedtime

Share of babies awake before 6am, by bedtime

In bed before 6 PM (n=322)63%
6:00–6:59 PM49%
7:00–7:59 PM28%
8:00–8:59 PM17%
After 9 PM14%

The same gradient holds within each age band. Share up before 6am, bedtime by 7pm vs after 9pm: 0–3 months 48% vs 19% · 4–6 months 48% vs 12% · 7–11 months 51% vs 10% · 12–23 months 53% vs 8%.

0–3 months
4–6 months
7–11 months
12–23 months

bedtime by 7pmafter 9pm

1 in 4
babies are up before 6am
26% of the full sample
55%
of after-9pm babies sleep past 7am
vs 11% of before-6pm babies

Bedtime tracks wake-up time closely, and the gradient holds within every age band we checked (above). Babies in bed before 6pm join the before-6am club at 63% (a small group, so read it as directional); babies down after 9pm, just 14%. The day doesn’t seem to get longer or shorter, it shifts. This surprises people, and it sits awkwardly against the “just put them down earlier” advice: in our data, an earlier bedtime travels with an earlier morning rather than a longer night. One honest caveat: this is a correlation. Families choose bedtimes for many reasons, so treat it as a map of how the day moves, not a promise that a later bedtime buys a lie-in.

The Naps Reality Check

Nap patterns shift dramatically as babies grow. Here’s what the data shows at each age.

37%
of 0–3mo take 4+ naps
Newborn naps are unpredictable
54%
of 4–6mo settle into 3 naps
A daytime rhythm emerges
65%
of 7–11mo are on 2 naps
The 3-to-2 transition
63%
of 12–23mo are on 1 nap
Afternoon-only territory
64%
of 2y+ still nap once
24% have dropped naps entirely

Two in three babies under 7 months take naps shorter than an hour. Longer naps arrive gradually: about a third of 7–11-month-olds nap an hour or more, and it only becomes the majority pattern after the first birthday (64% of 12–23-month-olds).

The Nap-Length Worry

Parents of short nappers are often warned that broken days make broken nights. The data mostly disagrees: among 4–12-month-olds, night waking is nearly flat across nap lengths.

wake 3+ times per night
Naps under 30 min65%
Naps 30–59 min68%
Naps 60–89 min61%

Short naps do not doom the night: babies napping under 30 minutes wake no more than longer nappers, and the sub-hour groups are statistically indistinguishable. The one group that stands apart is the 90-minute-plus nappers (54% wake 3+ times), but they are rare (n=731 of 20,426 in this age band), so treat that gap as directional. If your baby catnaps, the night is not automatically lost.

How Are Parents Really Feeling?

46%
Exhausted
36%
Drained
18%
Okay
<1%
Energized

Less than 1% of parents in our survey described themselves as “energized.” The vast majority, 82%, are running on empty.

The arithmetic of the night

Every Wake-Up Costs You

Parent sleep tracks baby waking as a near-perfect staircase. Each additional wake-up comes with more parents under the 6-hour line.

86%

of parents whose baby wakes three or more times a night sleep less than 6 hours.

Share of parents sleeping under 6 hours, by how often their baby wakes

40%
59%
74%
86%
Baby doesn’t wake (n=729)
Wakes once (n=2,328)
Wakes twice (n=7,150)
Wakes 3+ times (n=21,679)

Exhaustion climbs the same staircase: 54% of zero-wake parents feel exhausted or drained, rising to 68% at one wake, 77% at two, and 87% at three or more. There is no cliff and no plateau, every wake-up shows up, and reducing night wakeups is the number one goal parents name. The staircase is also the hopeful part: at every step, fewer wake-ups and more parent sleep go together. And it holds inside every age band: newborn parents run 50% to 91% under 6 hours as wake-ups stack, and even among toddler parents, 3+ wakes still leaves 84% under 6 hours.

The Emotional Load

Share of parents who feel each of these “often”

Low energy73%
Depleted65%
Overwhelmed64%
Phone as escape59%
Stressed / anxious59%
Guilt54%

69% of parents report “often” for at least 3 of these 6 burdens. Sleep deprivation doesn’t just make you tired, it saturates every corner of daily life.

Phone escape and guilt

The Doomscrolling–Guilt Link

Parents who escape into their phones most often are also far more likely to feel guilty. We pulled the cross-tab to see how closely the two travel together.

71%
of frequent phone-escapers feel guilt “often”
vs 20% for parents who almost never use their phone to escape
75%
also feel “depleted often”
vs 44% for non-scrollers
76%
say their self-care is suffering
vs 64% for non-scrollers

Frequent phone-escapersParents who almost never use their phone to escape

Phone escape and guilt travel together: a 51-percentage-point gap in guilt-often between parents at the two ends of the phone-escape scale. Which drives which, a survey can’t say. Exhausted parents may reach for the phone when restorative self-care feels out of reach, and what they scroll may feed the guilt; or parents who already feel guilty may escape more. Either way, the pattern is hard to miss. Based on 22,417 frequent phone-escape parents vs 3,632 who almost never use their phone this way.

The age split

The Guilt Is Young, the Exhaustion Is Old

Parent age splits the emotional load in two. Younger parents carry more guilt and more doomscrolling; older parents carry more exhaustion and less sleep.

feel guilty often
Parents 18–2460%
Parents 35–4451%
sleep under 6 hours
Parents 35–4482%
Parents 18–2476%

Guilt-often falls with every age band (60% at 18–24, 56% at 25–34, 51% at 35–44), and doomscrolling falls with it (62%, 60%, 57% reach for their phone often). Exhaustion runs the other way: 79% of 18–24s feel exhausted or drained, rising to 81% at 25–34 and 83% at 35–44, the group also most likely to sleep under 6 hours. The young feel worse about it; the old simply get less sleep. Based on 4,160 parents aged 18–24, 23,685 aged 25–34, and 12,504 aged 35–44.

The Ripple Effect of Sleep Deprivation

Areas of life parents say are most affected

Mood & patience78%
Self-care72%
Partner/family71%
Physical health50%
Enjoyment of life35%
Work focus28%
Friendships & social life21%

Three-quarters of parents say sleep deprivation has affected their mood and patience, making it the single most impacted area of daily life, ahead of even self-care and partner relationships.

What Sleep Deprivation Looks Like Day to Day

Behaviors parents report experiencing regularly

Feeling distant from partner74%
Struggling with daily tasks69%
Skipping things they enjoy58%
Eating cold meals40%
Cancelling plans31%

More parents report feeling distant from their partner than any other daily behavior, suggesting that sleep deprivation doesn’t just affect the individual, it quietly erodes the relationship that holds the family together.

The fight about the fix

When Parents Disagree About the Fix

13% of parents told us they and their partner disagree about how to handle their baby’s sleep. In our data, that disagreement tracks with relationship strain more closely than sleep loss alone does: a 24-point gap in feeling distant from a partner, vs 12 points for exhaustion and 7 for short sleep.

feel distant from their partner
Households that disagree about sleep90%
Households that don’t66%
69%
feel stressed or anxious often
vs 53% where parents agree
73%
feel overwhelmed often
vs 58% where parents agree
61%
of ALL parents say better sleep would mean a better relationship
the #3 hope, after energy and rest

The exhaustion is shared; the plan often isn’t. When parents pull in different directions at 3am, the distance shows up everywhere: guilt-often runs 66% vs 53%, and stress and overwhelm run 15 points or more higher. The hopeful flip side: 61% of all parents believe better sleep would repair exactly this. Based on 5,365 parents who flagged disagreement vs 35,458 who didn’t.

The Village Effect

When You Have a Village, the Bedroom Holds Together

The headline finding, 74% of parents feel distant from their partner, masks a sharp split. Where you fall on it depends on whether you have help.

feel distant from partner
Married-couple “just us” households71%
Households with extended-family help49%

Based on 37,342 married-partner households vs 340 households where parents named extended family as part of their care setup. Small extended-family cohort, read the gap as directional, not precise.

Across every emotional measure, parents with a village fare meaningfully better: depleted-often drops 13 pp, guilt-often drops 7 pp, exhausted-or-drained drops 17 pp. Sleep deprivation turns the modern isolated nuclear household into transactional survival, but families with extended help absorb the load differently. This isn’t about household structure. It’s about whether the load gets distributed.

Who has it hardest

Not All Parents Are in the Same Boat

Same overall exhaustion, two very different lived experiences. Where the divergence is biggest:

Single parents feel depleted at a 9-point higher rate

feel depleted often
Single parents74%
Partnered parents65%

Based on 2,632 single parents vs 37,342 partnered parents.

Experience doesn’t seem to protect you: second-time parents report more exhaustion

feel exhausted or drained
Parents of 2+ children85%
First-time parents81%

The babies sleep the same (57–58% wake 3+ times regardless of family size), but the parents don’t: guilt-often runs 62% for multi-child parents vs 52% for first-timers, and overwhelm 69% vs 62%. Knowing what you’re doing may not make 2am any shorter when there’s also a toddler up at 6. Based on 11,132 parents of 2+ children vs 26,957 first-time parents.

Mythbuster

The Full-Time Work “Paradox”, Solved

A surprising finding from the data: babies of full-time working parents wake less than babies of stay-at-home parents (45% vs 57% wake 3+ times per night). The temptation is to read this as “structured working-parent routines win.” We crossed the cohorts to test that.

babies wake 3+ times
Working full-time45%
Home full-time57%
  • Working FT, bedtime before 8pm: 51%
  • Home FT, bedtime before 8pm: 47% (a 4pp difference, not a routine difference)
  • Working FT babies under 4 months: 11%
  • Home FT babies under 4 months: 25% (the actual driver)

It’s not the routine. It’s the babies. Bedtime distribution and time-to-fall-asleep are essentially identical between the two cohorts. What differs is age composition: only 11% of working full-time parents have a 0–3-month-old, vs 25% of home full-time parents. Working parents skew past the high-waking months. The “paradox” is mostly age in disguise.

From 18,587 written responses

What Parents Told Us
In Their Own Words

Beyond the multiple-choice answers, more than two in five parents wrote additional context about their situation. Here’s what emerged.

The Co-Sleeping Reality: Survival, Not Strategy

More than 2 in 5 parents who shared additional context mentioned co-sleeping, and the overwhelming pattern wasn’t planned co-sleeping. It was desperation.
Parents described falling into bed-sharing after months of failed attempts to get their baby to sleep independently.

43%
mention co-sleeping
of parents who wrote in
66%
of co-sleepers’ babies wake 3+ times
vs 55% for others
69%
are running on <6 hours of sleep
and describe themselves as exhausted or drained
What parents are saying
“We end up co-sleeping after the first 2–3 night wakings. I never planned this.”
“Co-sleeping but wish we weren’t. Waking 7–12 times a night. Comfort feeding.”
“We co-sleep out of desperation. I never get a sleep.”
“She starts in her room then walks into ours at 2am. When I’m too tired, we just co-sleep.”

The Reflux Surprise

15% of parents mentioned reflux in their written responses, making it the third most common theme after co-sleeping and contact naps. But here’s what surprised us: in our data, babies with reflux don’t wake more than other babies.

wake 3+ times per night
Babies with reflux56%
Babies without reflux57%

This challenges the common assumption that reflux is what drives night waking. Reflux is real and uncomfortable, but babies with and without it wake at the same rate here, which suggests frequent waking is common at these ages, reflux or not.

The Contact Nap Cycle

26% of parents who wrote in mentioned contact napping, holding their baby for the entire duration of every nap. It’s often described alongside co-sleeping as part of a broader pattern of around-the-clock physical dependency.

60%
of contact nappers’ babies nap under 60 min
vs 56% for others
13%
report both co-sleeping AND contact naps
around-the-clock holding
What parents are saying
“Contact naps only. Currently cosleeping a lot.”
“Naps the best when contact napping. Won’t go down in her crib.”
“She loves contact naps and falling asleep on me. I can’t put her down without her waking instantly.”
“Mix of contact naps, pram naps, cot naps during the day. Our toddler is also in my care so sometimes naps are impacted.”
Parent stories

Parents Who Found Their Way Through

Betteroo parents who saw themselves in the data above, describing what changed for them.

“I was co-sleeping, feeding to sleep, and waking 5–10 times a night. Within weeks, my baby slept 5.5 hours without a feed.”

Alex

“Naps went from averaging 59 minutes to over 90. Night wake-ups dropped from 5 out of 8 nights to just 1.”

Lauren

“Three weeks in, night wake-ups dropped from 7+ to 2–3, and one night, zero. Naps nearly doubled.”

Aateqah

“We slept through the night 3 days in a row. My daughter went from needing me for every bedtime to letting Dad do it.”

Megan

Individual experiences, not typical results. Every baby is different.

The #1 Goal: Fewer Night Wakeups

What parents told us they want most

Reduce night wakeups85%
Predictable routine42%
End bedtime battles41%
Improve naps39%
Stop early waking30%

Night waking dominated parents’ concerns by a wide margin, more than twice as many parents cited it as their top goal compared with bedtime battles or nap issues.

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The other side of the ledger

What Better Sleep Would Buy Back

We asked parents what would change if sleep improved. The answers are less about sleep than about who they would get to be again.

Share of parents naming each outcome

Energy back74%
Finally feeling rested67%
A better relationship with their partner61%
A calmer baby60%
Feeling in control again58%
Confidence as a parent54%
A social life again28%

Three of the top answers are about identity, not sleep: energy, feeling in control, confidence. And 61% name their relationship with their partner, the same thread that runs through the disagreement and village findings: sleep debt is relational debt. Only 28% name a social life.

Baby Sleep Statistics 2026: Key Numbers to Cite

83,901 parents in 118 countries who came to Betteroo for help with their child’s sleep, October 2026 edition. Not a random population sample.

80% of parents of babies and toddlers in the survey sleep less than 6 hours a night.

This is the share of all 83,901 parents surveyed, whose children are aged 0 to 6.

82% of parents in the survey feel exhausted or drained.

46% describe themselves as exhausted and 36% as drained, while under 1% say they feel energized.

66% of babies aged 7–9 months wake three or more times a night, the highest share of any age band.

Based on 7,850 parents of a 7–9-month-old; waking is nearly as high at 4–6 months (64%, n=10,759), so it plateaus from 4 to 9 months rather than peaking.

86% of parents whose baby wakes three or more times a night sleep less than 6 hours.

That compares with 40% of parents whose baby doesn’t wake at night (n=21,679 vs 729).

10% of babies in the survey fall asleep on their own.

The rest need a caregiver’s help to fall asleep, most often feeding or rocking.

65% of babies in the survey are fed to sleep.

Feeding is the most common way babies fall asleep, ahead of rocking (62%); parents could choose more than one method.

39% of babies go to bed between 7:00 and 7:59pm, the most common bedtime.

Another 24% go down between 8:00 and 8:59pm, and 17% after 9pm.

26% of babies in the survey are up before 6am.

Early waking tracks bedtime: 63% of babies in bed before 6pm are up before 6am (n=322, a small group), compared with 14% of babies in bed after 9pm.

74% of parents in the survey feel distant from their partner.

It is the most common day-to-day effect of poor sleep that parents report, ahead of struggling with daily tasks (69%).

90% of parents who disagree with their partner about how to fix their baby’s sleep feel distant from them.

That compares with 66% of other parents (n=5,365 who disagree vs 35,458 who don’t); 13% of parents report this disagreement.

61% of parents say better sleep would mean a better relationship with their partner.

It is the third most common hope, after more energy (74%) and feeling rested (67%).

85% of parents want to reduce night wakeups, the most common sleep goal in the survey.

Next come a predictable routine (42%) and ending bedtime battles (41%); parents could choose more than one goal.

How to cite: Betteroo, State of Parent & Baby Sleep 2026 (October 2026 edition), survey of 83,901 parents in 118 countries. https://betteroo.ai/state-of-baby-sleep/

Frequently Asked Questions

How many parents did Betteroo survey for the State of Baby Sleep 2026?

The State of Parent & Baby Sleep 2026 is based on 83,901 responses from parents of children aged 0 to 6 years, collected July 2025 to October 2026, from 118 countries. Statistics count unique parents, one response per parent. The largest national samples are the United States (21,851), United Kingdom (7,958), Australia (4,501), Canada (1,935), and Spain (401). Respondents are parents who came to Betteroo seeking help with their child’s sleep, so the findings describe that community rather than all parents.

What percentage of parents are sleep-deprived according to the State of Baby Sleep?

80% of parents in the survey sleep less than 6 hours per night and 82% feel exhausted or drained. On a six-item wellbeing scale, 73% report low energy often, 65% feel depleted often, and 64% feel overwhelmed often. 69% report ‘often’ on three or more of those six wellbeing measures.

At what age do babies wake the most at night?

Night waking stays high from 4 to 9 months: about two-thirds of babies wake three or more times per night across that window (64% at 4-6 months, 66% at 7-9 months, a difference too small to call a peak). It eases after that: 59% at 10-12 months, 52% at 13-18 months, 39% at 19-24 months, and 30% at 2-6 years. At 0-3 months it is 48%.

What is the most common baby bedtime?

The most common baby bedtime is between 7:00 and 7:59pm, reported by 39% of families. 24% put their baby down between 8:00 and 8:59pm, 17% after 9pm, and 12% between 6:00 and 6:59pm. Among 0-3 month olds, 30% have bedtimes after 9pm.

How do most babies fall asleep?

Most babies in the survey fall asleep with caregiver help: 65% are fed to sleep, 62% are rocked, 43% have a caregiver sitting nearby, and 34% are sung to. Only 10% of babies fall asleep independently. Reducing night wakeups is the number one sleep goal for 85% of parents.

Does reflux cause babies to wake more at night?

Not according to the data. Babies with reflux wake three or more times per night at 56%, and babies without reflux at 57%, no meaningful difference. This challenges the common assumption that reflux is a primary driver of night waking. Co-sleeping shows a clearer association: co-sleepers’ babies wake 3+ times at 66% versus 55% for non-co-sleepers.

Is the Betteroo State of Baby Sleep data free to cite?

Yes. Individual statistics may be referenced with attribution and a link to betteroo.ai/state-of-baby-sleep. The report is Betteroo’s first-party annual survey with full methodology disclosed. It samples parents actively seeking sleep support via the Betteroo Sleep Assessment, not a random population sample. Reproduction of the full report or dataset requires written permission.

All Statistics at a Glance

Every number in this report, with sample sizes. Tap to expand

Sample: 83,901 survey responses collected July 2025 – October 2026 from 118 countries, from parents who came to Betteroo seeking help with their child’s sleep (not a random population sample). All statistics below count unique parents of children aged 0–6, one response per parent (US 21,851; UK 7,958; Australia 4,501; Canada 1,935; Spain 401; Germany 385; New Zealand 357; Italy 318; Netherlands 268; Portugal 196). Percentages are rounded to whole numbers; unrounded figures are in the open dataset.

Parent sleep & wellbeing: 80% sleep less than 6 hours per night. 82% feel exhausted or drained. 73% report low energy “often”, 65% feel depleted “often”, 64% overwhelmed “often”, 59% use phone as escape “often”, 59% stressed/anxious “often”, 54% guilty “often”. 69% report “often” on 3 or more of these six wellbeing scales.

Every wake-up shows up (dose-response): Share of parents sleeping under 6 hours by baby wake count: baby doesn’t wake 40% (n=729); wakes once 59% (n=2,328); wakes twice 74% (n=7,150); wakes 3+ times 86% (n=21,679). Exhausted-or-drained climbs the same staircase: 54%, 68%, 77%, 87%. The staircase holds within every age band: 0–3 months runs 50%/66%/81%/91%; 13+ months runs 32%/54%/71%/84%.

Doomscrolling and guilt: Of parents who use their phone as escape “often” (59% of all): 71% feel guilty often (vs 20% for parents who almost never reach for their phone, +51 pp), 75% feel depleted often (vs 44%), 76% report self-care erosion (vs 64%). Association only; the direction can’t be determined from a survey. Based on 22,417 vs 3,632 parents.

The age split: Guilt-often falls with parent age (60% at 18–24; 56% at 25–34; 51% at 35–44) and phone-escape falls with it (62%; 60%; 57%). Exhaustion rises instead: 79% of 18–24s feel exhausted or drained, 81% of 25–34s, 83% of 35–44s; under-6-hours sleep rises the same way (76%; 79%; 82%). Based on 4,160 / 23,685 / 12,504 parents.

When parents disagree about the fix: 13% of parents report disagreeing with their partner about how to fix sleep (n=5,365). Among them, 90% feel distant from their partner vs 66% of others (a 24-point gap, vs 12 points for exhaustion and 7 for short sleep); stressed-often 69% vs 53%; overwhelmed-often 73% vs 58%; guilt-often 66% vs 53%. 61% of all parents say better sleep would mean a better relationship with their partner.

The Village Effect: 71% of married-couple “just us” households feel distant from partner, vs 49% of households with extended-family help (-22 pp). Based on 37,342 vs 340 households; small cohort, directional.

Baby night waking by age (% who wake 3+ times per night): 0–3 months 48% (n=8,560); 4–6 months 64% (n=10,759); 7–9 months 66% (n=7,850); 10–12 months 59% (n=4,426); 13–18 months 52% (n=3,541); 19–24 months 39% (n=1,404); 2–6 years 30% (n=1,428). n = parents of a baby that age. Waking plateaus from 4 to 9 months (the 4–6 vs 7–9 month difference is about 1 point) and eases from 10 months.

Bedtime distribution: 7:00–7:59pm 39%; 8:00–8:59pm 24%; after 9pm 17%; 6:00–6:59pm 12%; varies 7%; before 6pm 1%. Among 0–3 month olds, 30% have bedtimes after 9pm. Bedtime tracks wake-up time: 63% of babies in bed before 6pm are awake before 6am (n=322, directional), vs 14% of babies in bed after 9pm (55% of whom sleep past 7am). The gradient holds within age bands (bedtime by 7pm vs after 9pm, up before 6am: 0–3 months 48% vs 19%; 4–6 months 48% vs 12%; 7–11 months 51% vs 10%; 12–23 months 53% vs 8%). 26% of all babies are up before 6am.

Time to fall asleep: 30–59 min 25%; 10–19 min 21%; 20–29 min 18%; not sure 16%; over 60 min 11%; less than 10 min 10%.

Naps by age: 37% of 0–3 month olds take 4+ naps. 54% of 4–6 month olds settle into 3 naps. 65% of 7–11 month olds are on 2 naps. 63% of 12–23 month olds are on 1 nap. 64% of 2y+ still nap once; 24% have dropped naps entirely. Two in three babies under 7 months nap under an hour; an hour-plus nap becomes the majority pattern only at 12–23 months (64%). Among 4–12-month-olds, night waking is nearly flat across nap lengths (under 30 min: 65%; 30–59 min: 68%; 60–89 min: 61% wake 3+ times).

Sleep goals (multi-select): Reduce night wakeups 85%; predictable routine 42%; end bedtime battles 41%; improve naps 39%; stop early waking 30%.

How babies fall asleep (multi-select): Feeding 65%; rocking 62%; sitting nearby 43%; singing 34%; it depends 19%; falls asleep alone 10%. Among 7–9-month-olds, babies fed back to sleep at night wake 3+ times at 69% vs 53% for babies resettled other ways (an association that likely runs in both directions).

How parents feel (single-select): Exhausted 46%; drained 36%; okay 18%; energized under 1%.

Life areas affected by sleep deprivation (multi-select): Mood & patience 78%; self-care 72%; partner/family 71%; physical health 50%; enjoyment of life 35%; work focus 28%; friendships & social life 21%.

Day-to-day behaviors (multi-select): Feeling distant from partner 74%; struggling with daily tasks 69%; skipping things they enjoy 58%; eating cold meals 40%; cancelling plans 31%.

What better sleep would buy back (multi-select): Energy 74%; feeling rested 67%; a better relationship with their partner 61%; a calmer baby 60%; feeling in control again 58%; confidence as a parent 54%; a social life again 28%.

Free-text themes (from 18,587 written responses, 46% of all parents): Co-sleeping mentioned by 43%; contact napping by 26%; reflux by 15%. 69% of co-sleepers are exhausted or drained AND sleep less than 6 hours. 13% of those who wrote in mention both co-sleeping and contact naps. Babies with vs without reflux wake 3+ times at 56% vs 57% (no meaningful difference).

The co-sleeping pattern: Co-sleepers’ babies wake 3+ times at 61% vs 51% for non-co-sleepers (+10 pp) and settle in under 10 minutes 7% of the time vs 10%. Parents’ written answers suggest the waking usually came first, so this is an association, not evidence that co-sleeping causes waking. Contact-nappers’ babies nap under 60 min at 60% vs 56% for others.

Segment differences: Single parents feel depleted “often” at 74% vs 65% for partnered parents (n=2,632 vs 37,342). Parents of 2+ children report more exhaustion (85% vs 81%) and guilt (62% vs 52%) than first-timers while babies wake at similar rates. Working full-time parents’ babies wake 3+ times less often than home full-time parents (45% vs 57%, n=7,025 vs 23,508), but the difference is age composition: only 11% of working full-time parents have a 0–3-month-old vs 25% of home full-time parents.

Geographic coverage: 33 countries with sample of 30+ unique parents. 162 regions and 150 cities meet the same threshold. Top cities by sample: Sydney (1,699); London (1,229); Melbourne (918); New York (805); Chicago (798); Dallas (763); Brisbane (670); Atlanta (660); Perth (476); Los Angeles (448); Miami (375).

All percentages cite Betteroo State of Parent & Baby Sleep 2026 (n=83,901). Citations: please link to https://betteroo.ai/state-of-baby-sleep/

Methodology

This report is based on 83,901 responses from the Betteroo Sleep Assessment, collected between 2025-07-31 and 2026-10-09. Statistics and breakdowns count unique parents (one response per parent, deduplicated). Respondents are parents of children aged 0–6 years who completed the quiz seeking help with their child’s sleep. Responses span 118 countries, with the largest samples from US (21,851), GB (7,958), AU (4,501), CA (1,935). Data is self-reported and represents parents actively seeking sleep support, not a random population sample. Geographic breakdowns require a minimum of 30 responses. Percentages are rounded to whole numbers; unrounded figures are in the open dataset. All data is anonymized and aggregated.

This report contains proprietary data from Betteroo. You may reference individual statistics with attribution and a link to betteroo.ai/state-of-baby-sleep. Reproduction of the full report or dataset without written permission is prohibited.

Cite this dataset: Rothman, R. (2026). The State of Parent & Baby Sleep 2026, Aggregated Survey Dataset. Zenodo. https://doi.org/10.5281/zenodo.20568464

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Key Findings: The State of Parent and Baby Sleep 2026

Based on 83,901 parents who came to Betteroo seeking help with their childs sleep, from 118 countries, July 2025 to October 2026. Statistics count unique parents, one response per parent. This is a help-seeking community, not a random population sample. Percentages are rounded to whole numbers.

80% of parents in the survey get less than 6 hours of sleep per night.

82% of parents feel exhausted or drained.

Night waking stays high from 4 to 9 months: about two-thirds of babies wake 3 or more times per night across that window.

About 1 in 10 babies fall asleep independently.

69% of parents report often on 3 or more of 6 wellbeing burden scales.

Percentage of Babies Waking 3+ Times per Night, by Age

At 0-3 months: 48% (n=8,560)

At 4-6 months: 64% (n=10,759)

At 7-9 months: 66% (n=7,850)

At 10-12 months: 59% (n=4,426)

At 13-18 months: 52% (n=3,541)

At 19-24 months: 39% (n=1,404)

At 2-6 years: 30% (n=1,428)

n is the number of parents of a baby that age. The 4-6 versus 7-9 month difference is about 1 point: waking plateaus from 4 to 9 months and eases from 10 months.

Bedtime Distribution

7:00-7:59 PM: 39%. 8:00-8:59 PM: 24%. After 9 PM: 17%. 6:00-6:59 PM: 12%. Varies: 7%. Before 6 PM: 1%.

Among 0-3 month olds, 30% have bedtimes after 9 PM.

Time to fall asleep: 30-59 minutes: 25%. 10-19 minutes: 21%. 20-29 minutes: 18%. Not sure: 16%. Over 60 minutes: 11%. Less than 10 minutes: 10%.

Morning Wake-Ups Track Bedtime

Bedtime tracks wake-up time closely, and the gradient holds within every age band checked. Share of babies awake before 6am by bedtime: in bed before 6 PM: 63% (n=322, directional). 6:00-6:59 PM: 49%. 7:00-7:59 PM: 28%. 8:00-8:59 PM: 17%. After 9 PM: 14%.

Within age bands, bedtime by 7pm versus after 9pm, share up before 6am: 0-3 months 48% versus 19%. 4-6 months 48% versus 12%. 7-11 months 51% versus 10%. 12-23 months 53% versus 8%.

1 in 4 babies (26%) are up before 6am. 55% of after-9pm babies sleep past 7am, versus 11% of before-6pm babies. This is a correlation, not a promise that a later bedtime buys a later morning.

Naps by Age

37% of 0-3 month olds take 4 or more naps. 54% of 4-6 month olds settle into 3 naps. 65% of 7-11 month olds are on 2 naps. 63% of 12-23 month olds are on 1 nap. 64% of children 2 years and older still nap once; 24% have dropped naps entirely. Two in three babies under 7 months take naps shorter than an hour; an hour-plus nap becomes the majority pattern only at 12-23 months (64%).

The Nap-Length Worry

Among 4-12 month olds, night waking is nearly flat across nap lengths. Babies napping under 30 minutes wake 3+ times at 65%, 30-59 minute nappers at 68%, and 60-89 minute nappers at 61%. The one group that stands apart is 90-minute-plus nappers (54% wake 3+ times), but they are rare (n=731 of 20,426), so treat that gap as directional.

How Parents Describe Their Energy Level

Exhausted: 46%. Drained: 36%. Okay: 18%. Energized: under 1%.

Less than 1% of parents described themselves as energized. 82% are running on empty.

Share feeling each burden often: Low energy: 73%. Depleted: 65%. Overwhelmed: 64%. Phone as escape: 59%. Stressed or anxious: 59%. Guilt: 54%.

Every Wake-Up Costs You

Share of parents sleeping under 6 hours by how often their baby wakes: baby does not wake: 40% (n=729). Wakes once: 59% (n=2,328). Wakes twice: 74% (n=7,150). Wakes 3 or more times: 86% (n=21,679).

Exhaustion climbs the same staircase: 54% of zero-wake parents feel exhausted or drained, rising to 68% at one wake, 77% at two, and 87% at three or more. The staircase holds within every age band: newborn parents run 50% to 91% under 6 hours as wake-ups stack, and toddler parents at 3 or more wakes still run 84%. At every step, fewer wake-ups and more parent sleep go together.

The Doomscrolling-Guilt Link

Of parents who use their phone as escape often (22,417 parents): 71% feel guilty often, versus 20% for parents who almost never reach for their phone (3,632 parents), a 51 percentage point gap. 75% feel depleted often (versus 44%). 76% report self-care erosion (versus 64%). This is an association; a survey cannot say which drives which.

The Guilt Is Young, the Exhaustion Is Old

Guilt-often falls with parent age: 60% at 18-24, 56% at 25-34, 51% at 35-44. Phone-escape-often falls the same way: 62%, 60%, 57%. Exhaustion runs the other way: 79% of parents aged 18-24 feel exhausted or drained, 81% at 25-34, and 83% at 35-44, the group also most likely to sleep under 6 hours (82% versus 76% for the youngest parents). Based on 4,160 parents aged 18-24, 23,685 aged 25-34, and 12,504 aged 35-44.

Top Sleep Goals

Reduce night wakeups: 85%. Predictable routine: 42%. End bedtime battles: 41%. Improve naps: 39%. Stop early waking: 30%.

How Babies Are Falling Asleep

Feeding: 65%. Rocking: 62%. Sitting nearby: 43%. Singing: 34%. It depends: 19%. Falls asleep alone: 10%.

Among 7-9 month olds, babies fed back to sleep at night wake 3+ times at 69% versus 53% for babies resettled other ways (n=6,440 versus 1,410). The association likely runs in both directions.

The Ripple Effect of Sleep Deprivation

Mood and patience: 78%. Self-care: 72%. Partner and family: 71%. Physical health: 50%. Enjoyment of life: 35%. Work focus: 28%. Friendships and social life: 21%.

What Sleep Deprivation Looks Like Day to Day

Feeling distant from partner: 74%. Struggling with daily tasks: 69%. Skipping things they enjoy: 58%. Eating cold meals: 40%. Cancelling plans: 31%.

When Parents Disagree About the Fix

13% of parents report disagreeing with their partner about how to handle baby sleep (n=5,365). Among them, 90% feel distant from their partner versus 66% of others. In this data, disagreement tracks with relationship strain more closely than sleep loss alone does: a 24 point gap in feeling distant, versus 12 points for exhaustion and 7 for short sleep. Stressed or anxious often: 69% versus 53%. Overwhelmed often: 73% versus 58%. Guilt often: 66% versus 53%. 61% of all parents say better sleep would mean a better relationship with their partner.

The Village Effect

71% of married couple just-us households feel distant from their partner, versus 49% of households with extended family help, a 22 point gap. With extended family, depleted-often drops 13 points, guilt-often drops 7 points, exhausted-or-drained drops 17 points. Based on 37,342 versus 340 households; small extended-family cohort, directional.

Single parents feel depleted often at 74% versus 65% for partnered parents (n=2,632 versus 37,342).

Parents of 2 or more children report more exhaustion than first-time parents: exhausted or drained 85% versus 81%, guilt often 62% versus 52%, overwhelmed often 69% versus 62%. Babies wake at similar rates regardless of family size (57-58% wake 3+ times). Based on 11,132 parents of 2 or more children versus 26,957 first-time parents.

The Full-Time Work Paradox, Solved

Babies of full-time working parents wake 3+ times at 45% versus 57% for home full-time parents (n=7,025 versus 23,508). Bedtime and time to fall asleep are nearly identical between cohorts. The difference is age composition: only 11% of working full-time parents have a 0-3 month old versus 25% of home full-time parents. The paradox is mostly age in disguise.

Co-Sleeping: Survival, Not Strategy

From 18,587 written responses (46% of parents): 43% mention co-sleeping, usually described as something parents fell into after the waking began. Co-sleepers babies wake 3+ times at 61% versus 51% for non-co-sleepers and settle in under 10 minutes 7% of the time versus 10%; 80% of co-sleeping parents feel exhausted or drained versus 82%. This is largely about who ends up co-sleeping, not evidence of what co-sleeping causes. 69% of co-sleepers are running on less than 6 hours of sleep and describe themselves as exhausted or drained. Based on 7,896 parents who mentioned co-sleeping versus 32,938 who did not.

The Reflux Surprise

15% mentioned reflux. Babies with reflux: 56% wake 3+ times. Babies without reflux: 57% wake 3+ times. In this data, babies with reflux do not wake more often, which suggests frequent waking is common at these ages, reflux or not.

The Contact Nap Cycle

26% mentioned contact napping. 60% of contact nappers babies nap under 60 minutes versus 56% for others. 13% report both co-sleeping and contact naps.

What Better Sleep Would Buy Back

Share of parents naming each outcome if sleep improved: energy back 74%. Finally feeling rested 67%. A better relationship with their partner 61%. A calmer baby 60%. Feeling in control again 58%. Confidence as a parent 54%. A social life again 28%.

Exhaustion Rates by Country

Parent exhaustion and sleep data across 33 countries from the Betteroo 2026 Sleep Report (October edition; statistics count unique parents)
Countryn<6hrs SleepExhaustedBaby Wakes 3+
Australia4,50181.3%82.4%60.2%
Austria8669.8%72.1%79.1%
Belgium13276.5%81.1%51.5%
Brazil4374.4%74.4%58.1%
Bulgaria4975.5%81.6%61.2%
Canada1,93576.4%81.6%52.1%
Croatia3177.4%77.4%58.1%
Denmark14879.7%78.4%78.4%
Finland5570.9%81.8%72.7%
France19279.2%84.4%57.3%
Germany38573.8%68.1%69.6%
Greece7077.1%77.1%62.9%
Hungary6479.7%78.1%57.8%
India9073.3%66.7%47.8%
Ireland12482.3%83.1%50%
Israel18058.3%48.9%11.7%
Italy31883.6%79.2%70.1%
Mexico4676.1%76.1%54.3%
Netherlands26878%78.4%54.9%
New Zealand35777.9%81.2%61.6%
Nigeria13680.9%39.7%38.2%
Norway9476.6%81.9%71.3%
Poland3591.4%82.9%71.4%
Portugal19685.7%82.7%60.2%
Romania11675%77.6%62.9%
Singapore15183.4%84.8%45.7%
Slovenia4376.7%76.7%72.1%
Spain40176.8%75.8%66.6%
Sweden12975.2%70.5%65.1%
Switzerland11072.7%71.8%69.1%
Turkey3278.1%71.9%65.6%
United Kingdom7,95881.4%86%57.8%
United States21,85179.6%81.2%48.6%